In 2021, as an act of remembrance, an orange rose was laid at the alter for every woman killed by a man in the past year, mostly in ‘domestic abuse’ and the children killed with their mothers.

Those 109 names were also read aloud.

God have mercy on us!

Included in the service were prayers that churches would become safe places for victims.

God have mercy on us!

 A welcome message from Rosemary (CADA North East)

 


CADA North East in collaboration with Mother's Union and North East churches

present a collective work
in memory of those who lost their lives at, or near, their homes from November 2020 to October 2021
A special word of thanks for the music…… We are very greatful to the following composers and musicians for giving us permission to use their music. Please watch this mini ‘thank you’ video from Rosemary. If you would like to expore the music we used further please see the links below.


REMEMBER

'Remember' is a call, not just for women to have safe places to speak, but for people to listen.
Our world is changing for the better and that is heartening, but what's heartbreaking is the idea that when women do speak out, they aren't heard.
Why?
What does it say about us as a society that we don't know how to respond to this or that the response to the courage of telling someone what happened to you is, well that happens to everyone?
So we don't want people to stop dying? We can't change? In 2021, where we are patting ourselves on the back for being so accommodating to difference, an ugly secret pervades our society.
Its not the “shameful” secret of being hurt, it's the fact that we haven't yet been able to change how our society accepts hurting others.

For me, the water is a fictional place where I can explore possibilities, where I'm free to experience what I feel and act beyond the invisible, unheard restrictions of a culture that still doesn't listen or know what to do about the female experience.
It's unacceptable to me that this space does not exist in reality.

Change culture. Change culture by changing our behaviour. Change behaviour by changing our thinking. Change thinking by understanding why this must change.

This is not a female responsibility.

Remember, no more 1 in 3

Special thanks to:
Composer Kim Andre Arnesen and Conductor Nichol Matt for their kind permission to use Eja Mater performed by the World Choir for Peace.

Sarah Dodds for her video ‘Remember’

Andrew Coad without whose tech skills, endless patience and tireless support, this presentation could not have happened.

 

No More 1 in 3 Presentation:

St John’s Church Sleekburn

Rev. Ian Hennebry, Claire Lawrie and Cath

 

All Saints Rothbury, Mothers’ Union Upper Coquetdale Branch

Alison Bell

Haydon Bridge,

Anne Brunton

 

Mothers’ Union First Internet Branch

Anju, Caroline, Cath, Catherine, Dorothy, Elaine, Karolina, Rosemary, Sarah, Susan, Sylvia.

 

Holy Nativity, Chapel House, Newcastle upon Tyne

Dorothy Walker

 

Community Church, Killingworth.

Heather Bowditch

Dawn Bentley

Peter Bentley

Sue Glover

Dave Glover

Jackie Hudson

Isobel Appleby

 

St Andrew’s Cambois

Rev. Ian Hennebry, Churchwarden Jacqui Wilson, Claire Lawrie and Cath.

 

St Columba’s Wideopen

Joyce Elrod

 

St Cuthbert’s Church Bedlington

Rev. Ian Hennebry, Churchwarden Terry Webb, Claire Lawrie and Cath.

 

St Gabriell’s Heaton and St Francis, High Heaton

Rev, Shelia Auld

 

St John’s, Whorlton

 Anne Blight

 

St Mary the Virgin, Monkseaton

Gillian, Malcolm.

 

Thanks to Sue Jessett for collating the victims’ names.